Lillian L. Barbey
Lillian Lorillard Barbey, 59, a founding resident of Pathfinder Village, passed away peacefully after a brief illness. She was loved by her fellow residents, staff, and family, and will be remembered for her great sense of humor and “true grit.”
Lily was born in New York City on December 13, 1952, the second child of Lillian Manger Barbey and Henry I. Barbey. Lily lived with her family during her early years, and moved to the Otsego School, Pathfinder Village’s predecessor, on July 4, 1958. Lily was a graduate of the Otsego School’s educational program, and was among the original 43 residents of Pathfinder when it opened on July 29, 1980.
Until recently, Lily attended the Hartwick Day Habilitation program, where she was adored by staff members, and enjoyed special treats of spaghetti, M&M candies, and root beer on Friday afternoons. She lived most recently at Pathfinder Village’s Delaware and Chenango Houses, and was particularly close to Senior Residential Coach Jamie Miner, and Residential Coaches Robin Lasher, Maribeth Laird, Rose Davis, Alecia Chrysler, among others. Saul Gross and the ladies of Delaware House were her very good friends.
Independent and determined, Lily was a woman of few words. She enjoyed gently teasing staff, and “added a lot of life” to her home and day program environment. Her favorite activities included community outings with her friends and family, dancing, listening to country music and radio programs, attending summer camp, sorting her picture card collection, watching the “Apple Dumpling Gang” and other westerns, and watching televised wrestling and boxing matches. She also loved to decorate a small holiday tree for each important occasion.
Her family was central to her life, and Lily enjoyed receiving packages, usually containing jam and jelly assortments, each month. She also enjoyed their regular visits, which would typically culminate with the purchase of a radio, which was proudly displayed with her large collection.
Lily is survived by her mother, Lillian Barbey, of New York; sister, Florence “Fluffy” Barbey of New York; brother, Henry I. Barbey, Jr. of New York; and a cousin, artist Isabelle Beuttell Dayton of Vero Beach, who painted a signature portrait that graces Pathfinder Village’s Kennedy-Willis Center as well as numerous other relatives. Lily was predeceased by her father, Henry I. Barbey, Sr. in 1963.
A memorial service will be held for Lily at 10:00 a.m. at the Morgan Jackson All Faiths Chapel at Pathfinder Village on July 21, with arrangements by the Houk-Johnston-Terry Funeral Home of Edmeston. Interment will be at the convenience of the family. The family has requested that Memorial donations be sent in Memory of Lily to Pathfinder Village, 3 Chenango Road, Edmeston, NY 13335.
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